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Hello everyone, my name is Chaerlie and I'm transgender m2f and new here. I'm an Australian too, so I apologise in advance if I come across as being a bit too direct, and I'll keep the lingo to the least cryptic level possible.  No drop bears here. 

I would love to connect with other Aussies primarily, though I'm not going to turn away anyone who contacts me (unless you are an insensitive, trolling, pain in the proverbial !) So please feel free to contact me about anything at all. 

There's 44 years of history to me so far. I'm pre hrt, grs, every thing else though I'm suspecting that I may be intersex as i have a more female shaped body than a male one and I have gynocomasty too, so my b cup boobs are all natural and old friends now.  So for about 30 odd years I've wanted to be on the outside what I felt I was already on the inside, a woman. Problem is, I'm having some difficulty with finding my way through the maze that is being transgender here in Australia. I want to go on hrt and really get the ball rolling but just don't know where to start or who to turn to that can then help me achieve my goals.

I'd really welcome any help, and/or suggestions as to where to start or who to see that can guide me through this process. Australian contextual help would be most helpful, but I'll read through any helpful posts to try to bring myself up to speed, as it were.

So, that's why I'm here, in a nutshell. 

I also hope to be able to help others here too, if at all possible. 

And remember....No one chooses to be transgender, it chooses us!15476295931704872595704860632705.thumb.jpg.b587fc74a696499c0c471e2dfe4f8cc8.jpg1542908591190.jpg.5507641d336c2695516791a9f41ce1a8.jpg

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Hi Codeawayhaley, pleased to meet you!
I'm in Perth.
Where are you?

Are you a bit of a programmer, are you?

I'm a telecommunications network technician and IT professional.
Mostly set up data networks over various mediums. Copper, optic fibre and RF links, suck as 4g, microwave and WiFi too.

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