Will you come out to your parents?

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Staff member
May 1, 2018
I am semi-closeted. I was thinking that it doesn't matter as long as I can accept for who I am myself and that my siblings and some close friends are accepting my sexual orientation. I wouldn't want to come out to my parents because I think they cannot accept it, especially when my mother is like a dictator in the family and my dad is like a decade older than my mother (which more likely to be a lot more traditional minded).

How important for you to come out to your parents?
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Staff member
May 6, 2018
I don't think it is important, I've come close to it many times but I've given up they aren't the kind of people you should come out too they will just use it to make hurtful jokes and bully.


Rainbow Members
May 6, 2018
I think it really depends on the person and situation. For example, for my mental health sake I needed my mom to understand me being trans nonbinary so she can use the right pronouns and hopefully at some point, the right name. Same for my sister. I feel for me it isn't important for them to know about my sexuality, but I did anyways and it's only caused problems. People say to test the waters before coming out but in my experience it might not always work. I thought my mom would be ok, if not a little confused or wouldn't fully understand but still accept me for who I am. Unfortunately for me, I was wrong.

So to answer your question, I think its different for everyone. Some people might not find it important to disclose their identity/identities either because they don't think it's important for everyone to know or maybe even for safety.
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New Member
Apr 15, 2019
In my situation come out to parent was a disaster. My father still doesn't talk to me although a half year has passed.  I think that's why I have mental health problems that led me to drug addiction.